Getting Rid of the Angers
we have stuffed inside ourselves
If we've swallowed our
angers. If we've tucked away, deep inside of us, those we blame or resent
because they've caused us anger. If we've never looked at these resentments
from every side. If we have not taken the time to vent our angers and frustrations...
all of these remain inside of us where they will continue to gnaw upon
our new found good health.
It is good to leave all
the negatives of Lyme and Coinfections behind. To drag them into our new
healthy life will simply sabotage what we want the most.
Some common feelings
felt by people infected with the bacteria's of Lyme Disease and Co-Infections:
Are you now and have you felt any
of these while in Lyme dis'ease? Take the time to to remember when that
was and the reason for it?
We may feel puzzled over the the many and weird symptoms
and the downward change in our health. We may feel disturbed, concerned,
afraid, anxious, worried, hopeful, disappointed, shamed, embarrassed, flabbergasted,
mad, frustrated, distressed, confused, intimidated, guilty, rejected, incompetent,
insulted, ashamed, insecure, invalidated, abandoned,
controlled, not considered, let down, enraged, exasperated, hopeless,
insecure, helpless, optimistic, miserable, responsible, devastated,
stifled, depressed, furious, idiotic, not in control, helpless, sad, unloved,
alone, powerless, overwhelmed ...
Feelings alert us through
our senses, emotions, intuition and by physical expressions
and actions. Feelings alert us to something that is active in our inner
or outer environment. Feeling's want us to pay attention, to alert us to
do something, take action... That's their job and they will not stop waving
their alert flag until we acknowledge them and respond to what they are
alerting us to.
Our feelings belong to us alone, nobody
makes us feel. Feelings are part of our natural resources within us. Feelings
help us feel our lives in four dimensions. They help us to make decisions
on how and where to navigate our everyday lives. They help us make changes
to better our environment....But... that is only if we own them, listen
to what they are alerting us to, and think about what, if any, action to
take to make our inner or outer environments harmonious again.
A feeling can nag at us for many years until we finally
feel it and acknowledge it and take "action" to make our lives better.
That constant, endless nagging of certain feelings can be quite energy
draining and often cause us unhappiness.
Life would be very flat and unsafe if we did not have
feelings. For example, when we encounter failing health it certainly does
not stir up our joyful feelings, rather it stirs up the more difficult
This is anger:
"I've had it. I am annoyed. I am irritated. You
make me laugh. I'm ready to explode. I am fed up. "I'm pissed, but
not angry." I'm annoyed, but certainly not really angry. Slamming doors,
Sarcasm, pounding the table, kicking the chair . . . Trying to bury it
by saying, I am disappointed. Acting self-sacrificing and long-suffering,
to cover up my anger. Trying to act understandingly of the person whose
behavior negatively affected my feelings. Passive anger being expressed
by manipulating the other into feeling bad. This is all toned down and
denied anger. Anything that causes you feelings of some kind of pain,
fear, and powerlessness is anger.
Often, when we are dealing with unknown or known
disease, trying to get a diagnosis, loss of health, lack of money, unable
to maintain our friendships and socialization, experiencing physical pain,
being under severe stress, trying to survive, trying to juggle our lives,
trying to keep up our responsibilities, trying to parent, not being up
to par in what we do now as to compare to our former self, and all that,
it is natural that it will create anger n us.
Anger is the e-motion that give us the fuel for creating
change, or to stand up for ourselves or to spill out what's been irritating
us, thus giving others the information they require to change what has
been irritating our feelings.
The anger e-motion can only be created by our very own
feelings by a combination of some kind of fear, pain and powerlessness.
| Fear +
not being considered
Anything not in ones control
The emotion of anger is good because it
helps us to make our inner and outer environment(s) better, that's if we
choose to take responsibility of it. Anger helps us to let-go and to detach
from our losses and disappointments. It helps us to change our ways or
to ask others to change something that is making our lives miserable.
Anger certainly makes us aware of what is important to
We don't get angry over things that are not important
to us. Anger warns us that something is not okay and that we must speak
up for our own good. It gives us the motivation and the energy to create
change. It helps us spill out all the feelings and thoughts we've been
swallowing (sometimes for decades).
Anger is for our good when we use it correctly. Anger
can also be destructive when we allow it to run wild and express it aggressively.
Anger e-motion naturally releases cortisols, adrenalins,
progesterone throughout the body and when these are not vented, they remain
in the body where they gnaw away at our health in a very negative way.
There is not one Lyme infected person who needs this added to their already
New and old angers can be vented, dealt with, and dissipated.
Any swallowed angers can be worked out. All resentments can be vaporized.
We simply make time for relieving ourselves of all these angers that have
remained to chew on our liver.
We identify each of our feelings underneath each of our
angers and then learn what each of these feelings are wanting from us to
make our inner or outer environment comfortable again. It also tells us
something about ourselves..what is important to us.
We can release all our resentments. We can do it with
the help of experts who specialize in anger release or we can do it ourselves
by using such tools as this formula.
Forgiveness is to heal
you, not the other person.
Forgiveness sets us free,
from being controlled by the control we had given to the one
who injured us.
Forgiveness is not the
condoning of a harmful behavior, nor excusing or overlooking
Forgiveness is for giving
to you a gift of freedom from the past.
Forgiveness is not something
you do, but something you undo.
Forgiveness sets you free
from the injury, the hurt, the hate and the resentment
caused by words, actions,
Forgiveness changes us
from being a prisoner of our past, to peace with our present
a resentment and lifts anxiety and depression.
Forgiveness is not denying
there was a wrong.
Forgiveness sets us free
of our anger toward the one whose behavior caused us
Forgiveness expels a clump
of negative energy within us, and clears the way for
something new and better
to enter us.
Forgiveness is not a sign
of weakness. It is a sign of strength and a heroic virtue.
Forgiveness is not swallowing
your feelings, but rather bringing them out into the
light so they can help
you decide what work you need to do, to make your life better.
Forgiveness is not surrendering
- It is a conscious choice.
Forgiveness is not buying
someone a present and giving it in front of other's, so
other's will think good
Forgiveness is not pretending
some past behavior or injustice holds no negative
energy for you ... when
Forgiveness is not saying,
"My Higher Power will take care of it and forgive me for
not doing the work of
Forgiveness is not wearing
a big smiley face while at the same time you are beaming
all kinds of negative
energy on whatever and whoever has done you wrong.
Forgiveness is not the
hollow words, "I'm sorry."
Forgiveness is not the
hollow words, "I apologize."
Forgiveness is internal
Forgiveness is a healing
that always follows a sincere forgiveness.
Forgiveness comes from
the work you do within to genuinely and sincerely let-go of
the hurt and than recycling
it through the heart and having it come out as genuine
love . . . for you,
for another or for both of you.
A formula to get rid of Lingering
Start by making a list of all your angers/resentments/irritations/bitters/frustrations...
1. Take one of these from the list.
2. Describe the situation that caused you anger?
3. How did this affect you at that time and over time?
Did it affect your self-esteem, your personal relationships,
your sexuality, your aspirations and dreams, your feeling of security,
your finances? ....
4. What were the underlying feelings of your anger at
the time? (Pain, Powerlessness, Fear)
5. In that situation were
you being: Being abusive? Selfish? Dishonest?
Were you trying to make your self look good?
Were you inconsiderate?
6. Were you responsible for causing that incident?
Were you to blame in that situation?
7. If yes - How were you at fault?
8. At the time of this incident, look at what your feelings
were trying to alert you to. Try to identify what they were wanting you
9. With the information, strengths, weaknesses and smarts
you had, at that time in your life, could you have done anything differently?
10. If you encountered that same exact situation again
today - Knowing what you know now, how would do things differently?
11. Is there anything you could do now to make the past
situation right? If so, brainstorm and do ACTION. e.g. Do I need
to apoplogize for my part in this? Repay something? If so, do it. This
is about you and your responsibilities only.
12. When the other was at fault . . . It was
none of your business to carry this around with you. The blame and shame
belonged to them and them alone! Yet, you allowed someone else's behavior
to cause havoc within you. You are the one who has secretly suffered over
the days, months or years. The key word is . . . You have allowed
it to hurt you.
13. Forgive yourself or forgive them (or both) by writing
down, "I did the best I could with the skills and information and smarts
that I had at that moment in time.
They did the best they could with what they had at that
moment in time. I do not forgive the inappropriate behavior, but
I do forgive (name)_________ for doing the best that She/ He/They could
with the information or smarts they had at that moment in time.
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